EXCERPTS FROM BAFFLED BY ADDICTION

"The suggested strategies provide distraught friends and family members with insightful tools to caringly steer their loved one toward abstinence and recovery."

 

"The goal is to apply the widely accepted disease concept of addiction to practical, real-life situations encountered by people whose lives have been impacted by an addicted loved one."

 

“If you suspect that your loved one—your child, spouse, parent, sibling, or good friend—has a drinking or other drug problem you’re probably correct. Your concern alone is a powerful indicator that a problem exists.”

 

“To refrain from rescuing your loved one from the consequences created by his addiction will be one of the most painful—and most loving—tasks that you will ever have to experience.”

 

“Much of recovery [from addiction] must emphasize the need to mature, take responsibility, and become an independent, drug-free individual.”

 

"Addiction is every family member’s worst nightmare."

 

"Rescuing the addicted individual from any given crisis guarantees that another, greater crisis will occur."

 

"Once you become willing to stop solving the problems created by your loved one’s disease, he’ll reach a personal turning point—a place where he’ll accept help. Only then can recovery begin."

 

"The addicted person’s turning point is always one crisis beyond the family’s ability or willingness to fix it."

 

"The primary reason that certain people become addicted (and others do not) is that their body metabolizes the drug in a way that produces a heightened pleasurable experience far greater than that obtained by those who do not become addicted."

 

"Addiction is not due to weak moral character, stress or traumatic events, weak will- power, an addictive personality, high-risk environment, or low self-esteem."

 

"Each time a problem is fixed…consequences are removed which, in turn, guarantees the occurrence of another crisis."

 

"Only when the addicted person feels the full impact of his behavior—by experiencing consequences—will the crises cease."

 

"The consequences caused by the addiction increase in both magnitude and frequency."

 

"Rescuing guarantees that another, greater crisis will occur."

 

"Money is the lifeblood of addiction. Stop the money and you create an opportunity for your loved one to get well."

 

"For any given amount of anger directed toward the addicted individual, an equal amount of pity will follow."

 

"Both the family and the loved one in recovery must be patient and wait for good things to happen, comforted by the knowledge that good things will happen, one day at a time."

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